As we are a completely voluntary, unfunded group with increasing demands on our time and energy, we very much regret that we are no longer able to answer individual support and advice queries. For support and advice queries, please visit the Adoption Rights Alliance peer support group on Facebook, which has over 2,800 members, made up of adopted people, natural parents and others affected by adoption. Everything discussed in the group is confidential, and membership is vetted to ensure that only those with a genuine connection to adoption are granted access. If you are concerned about privacy, you are welcome to join under a pseudonym. The group can be accessed here.